Month 2 is well on its way and I am in the middle of the craziest week I have had in a while! As way to be more adventurous, I have started asking more questions and saying yes more often. I can’t tell you yet, but I have so much fun stuff in store, maybe a YouTube channel of my own…. Anyway, back to the blog!
As you can imagine, blogging is not the most social of things to do. I can very easily spend all my time in my bed watching YouTube and stalking people on Instagram while keeping my blog running very smoothly. But what kind of life is that? Over the past week or so, I have been having really amazing conversations with some people on Twitter! (Yes, I told you I respond and I love to chat! So tweet me!) Anyway, as you may remember from my last post, I asked a question and sent it into the webosphere… “What is keeping you from reaching your 2017 goal?” What I found out was a lot of people are just really afraid of feeling lonely. So today, I have 5 ways you can meet new people while still trying new things!
Starting something new is intimidating enough, and doing it alone can be almost paralyzing. I think being alone can lead to so much growth and should never be a reason that you aren’t able to reach your goals. While I truly believe once you jump into something you love, friends will come, I completely understand the fears you all have. At 18 I moved out and went to a college that was over 1,390 miles away from my family, with my closest relative being over 200 miles away, and if that was not enough, my junior year, on a whim, I packed up and went to study abroad in Seville, Spain. All by myself.
While I was living away, I had really great times. I learned about myself, I ate great food, I tried many, many new things and of course I met really great people. But, I also had really not so great times. I got homesick, I felt alienated, and I didn’t always feel comfortable around the people I was with. Being alone is a learning process but there are ways to combat it!
For people who are trying to travel, visit conventions, or just be spontaneous, Airbnb is a great resource. As google describes it, Airbnb is “an online marketplace and hospitality service, enabling people to lease or rent short-term lodging including vacation rentals, apartment rentals, homestays, etc…” When I was abroad, I backpacked Italy, spent a week in Munich and roamed around Austria and things got lonely sometimes. So, it was always great to come back to the Airbnb I was staying at and be able to talk to someone. While you can have the option to rent an entire apartments to yourself, I realized searching for hosts that like to share fun city hacks or just have simple conversations makes the lonely sensation dwindle.
For me, This was particularly true in Munich. I was there to see Sam Smith live in concert, of course, by myself, and I was staying with a nice woman who was also alone. She made me dinner and told me about her son who was away for film school. She was an empty nester, who appreciated my presence as much I appreciated hers!
And what is amazing about Airbnb is you don’t have to be somewhere expensive or extravagant to use it. You can easily go to the next major city in your state, or a small convention and stay with someone who might resonate with you.
Couchsurfing in the free version of Airbnb. It is a little more difficult to use because there are a lot fewer people willing to share their house for free than to rent it out, but there are other ways to use Couchsurfing. Couchsurfing is not only focused on renting or sharing space, in fact, part of its mission is to encourage people to meet new people. In addition to sharing their homes and inviting strangers into their lives, there are often socials found through Facebook groups and other social sites. These get-togethers can be at local bars, bowling rinks or even karaoke spots. I have never been to someone’s house through Couchsurfing, but I have visited one of their get-togethers where people sat around, mingled and at tapas. It was a really fun time and everyone is genuinely excited to meet someone new and make them feel like they are home!
Meet Up is a place where people who are throwing events, socials, meditation sessions, or just want to sit around a campfire and jam find other people who want to join. You can find every type of group under the sun, or you can make your own. It is super simple to use and probably, in my opinion, the best way to meet new people who are interested in what you are interested in. You sign up, select your interests, and find groups that are doing similar things. Each group has different rules and regulations, but for the most part, these groups are free and open to the public! Through Meet Up, I found a group of Yoga enthusiasts who spent their summer going to free yoga practices around Philadelphia! It was super fun and everyone really seemed to enjoy themselves.
This may be the least known and I can honestly say I have it downloaded but never actually used it. However, I thought it was still worth mentioning. Cliq is a social app that helps you meet other groups of people. You log in with your Facebook and then you are sent to a timeline that shows the many different types of people and a short bio of their interests. If you think they may be fun to hang out with you connect with them.
Last but certainly not least, is Google. While it in its purest form is not for making friends, you can definitely use it to make friends! Google local events, search private communities with your interest in mind, there are actually limitless possibilities on Google, so if you are looking at this list and your thought is D. none of the above, then Google what is relevant for you and your life style. You never know what or who you will find.
And #6 … Tweet Me! So maybe you’re giving me the side eye right now. But really, chatting with people online, especially with me, and being engaged on social media can be a great way to meet new people. And while it didn’t make my official list I think it is still super important to mention. If you tweet or comment below, you see other people who are also reading “Year As” and that’s one common interest already!
With that said, I am asking again because I really liked talking about it.
Tweet me @BrisaBiaMarie: What is keeping you from reaching you 2017 goals? Use the hashtag #YearAsTheBlog
Comment your thoughts, questions and concerns below.
Thank you all for reading and keep sharing and interacting with me because you all are helping me combat my loneliness as a blogger every day!